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Are Parents Setting Kids Up For Failure By Pushing Too Hard For Success?

It’s only natural that we, as parents, try to give our children all the skills and opportunities to help them reach their goals in life. We all go about this task differently. As you will read in the article below, some of us go a little too far. The end result is the possibility that all we have indeed accomplished is to drive our kids to the point of burn-out and stress. This article is food for thought. If you recognize yourself in this article perhaps you will take the message to heart and redirect your attention.

Are Parents Setting Kids Up For Failure
By Pushing Too Hard for Success?

By Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Yahoo Shine/Team Mom

Are parents harming kids by focusing on the wrong definition of success?

No matter your socioeconomic status, as parents you want your kids to have a better life than you do. But instead of launching a generation of happy young adults who feel driven to succeed, parents who are hyper-focused on doing everything “right” have created a country full of kids who are stressed-out, burned-out, and depressed. According to psychologist and author Madeline Levine, “Our current version of success is a failure.”

In her new book, “Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success,” Levine says that parents are preoccupied with “a narrow and shortsighted vision of success,” and that we rely on our kids to “provide status and meaning in our own lives.” It’s a harmful combination, weighing kids down with serious issues — “stress, exhaustion, depression, anxiety, poor coping skills, and unhealthy reliance on others for support and direction, and a weak sense of self,” Levine says — when we should be trying to teach them to be resilient and independent if we really want them to succeed in life. Read the rest of this entry »

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