Posts Tagged ‘manners’

The Adults We Are Creating

helicopterParentRecently I’ve heard stories about the way our kids are getting along in the “real world”. Not my kids, all kids. I’ve heard tales from a college source and tales from the job world. While some kids are doing just great others have not yet mastered what today’s reality is all about. I’m not talking about current events, I’m talking about dealing with day-to-day expectations and basically being self-reliant and able to cope with the “stresses” of daily life.

I’m not here to judge, only pass along some info that might give parents a different perspective on the outcome of some of the ways you are nurturing your kids. Here are a few examples: Read the rest of this entry »

The Hungry Hoard At My Table

As another round of holiday meals is approaching I thought I’d share…

Some of my fondest memories are of large holiday gatherings. When the gathering is happening in my house you can be sure that I’m going all out to make it a special occasion. I plan out my menu. I shop with careful consideration of every part of the meal. I try to be innovative and definitely festive. Being a designer I take special care to decorate and present my creation in a way that I hope will bring delight to my guests the moment they see my handiwork. It is with great pride and anticipation that I put myself through the rigors of preparation and presentation. While this might sound like a lot of self-inflicted angst, it is always a labor of love. The moment I hear the praise of “what a lovely table,” or “something smells good,” I know I’m on the track to success.

There is one element of this process that I have no control over. It is the hungry hoard that pounces on my table before I’ve had a chance to thoroughly secure it. Read the rest of this entry »

How Do Your Kids Say “Thank You”?

Gift-giving season has ended and I’m wondering, “How do your kids say Thank You? Seems there are some differences of opinion as to the importance of teaching a child how to acknowledge a gift and following it up with a Thank You. I doubt anyone would actually feel that the simple act of saying Thank You is a bad thing. Yet, more and more parents seem to lack the skill or desire to pass along this simple skill.

Time passes but rules of etiquette last forever. A child who says Please and Thank You stands out in a crowd of kids who lack this social skill. For some it may seem old-fashioned to focus on a Thank You. When, exactly, did manners go out of style?

We are just a few days past Christmas and Hanukkah and your kids probably received some wonderful gifts. Those gifts were given with the hope of experiencing the joy they would bring to the recipient. If you live far from family members you should realize that gifts given at this time of year are a way of reconnecting. A way of expressing love. A way of inciting a conversation that enables the gift giver and recipient to reinforce their emotional bond. Trust me, grandparents are waiting to hear if the gift they sent was liked. Did it put a smile on a grandchild’s face? Are they enjoying playing with that toy? Simply, are the grandkids thinking of them?

So how do your kids say Thank You? There was a time when a hand-written note sent by mail was the only proper way to do it. I have to say I would be just as touched by a Thank You that arrives via a phone call, email, social media, or Skype. It’s not so much how it arrive but that it does arrive. That two-minute phone call brings joy to the heart of a grandparent. An email to Aunt Mary saying Thank You puts a smile on her face. It lets her know that her efforts and expression of emotion were received and appreciated. A Thank You post on Facebook to a sister who lives far away helps to rekindle the spark between siblings. Any Thank You  automatically tells the gift giver that they are being thought of and appreciated. Best of all, a Thank You starts a conversation. It allows people to connect. Smile. Cry. Hug. Smile some more. Most of all, it allow the gift giver to know that you care for them as much as they care for you.

There’s no reason to wait – say Thank You today.

Here’s a list of 25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9. Do your kids follow these rules?
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